[BONUS]: Happy Mother's Day 2018
So if you didn’t know, I’m a mom. This is my son Marley, he’s three (and a half). We’ve been through a lot in the past three years, and I want to drop a note to you on this Mother’s Day about pushing past your adversities…
Three years ago, I canceled my wedding (to his father) 30 days before walking down the isle. It was one of the most devastating moments of my life. If you’ve been through any sort of trauma, when you’re right up against it, it’s hard to see the other side. I started my internship the next day, and sat through horrific stories of women in abusive relationships, and helped them figure out how to push through to the other side, not knowing how I was going to do it for myself. I felt like an imposter, I felt like a fraud, I felt like I was playing a role, and I felt outside of my body on most days. Then I’d have to go home, and mother my child.
I did this for a year.
I FOUND MYSELF IN A SEASON OF NEWNESS… a budding clinician, a new mom, and newly single…
Those moments forced me to dig deep and begin the process of rebuilding my confidence in myself as a woman, a mother, and a therapist. My clients relied on my growing skills and knowledge to assist them in their growth, but what they didn’t realize was that I was on a similar journey.
It took about half of my son’s life for me to find a place of peace. I started a small practice called The Love Collective and threw myself into helping women figure out how to get to the other side. Although I was the clinician, my clients were helping me. With each success in their lives, I learned how to improve my own. I learned to be patient with myself. I learned to not be a perfect mother. I learned how to co-parent. I learned how to practice acceptance.
I gained strength… I started working on all parts of myself. Bought a house, got a new job, and embraced my new role as a co-parenting mother. Then… my supervisor threatened the very thing I had been working so hard to secure.
But I was prepared. You see I learned in this (on-going journey) that I have to be prepared. So this time, I didn’t take two years to get back on track... I took two months to fuel what is now the reason you’re even reading this message!
So on this Mother’s Day I want to remind you that we too are human. We have hardships, we make mistakes, and our children eat pizza on days when we’re just too tired cook. Things may not always turn out to be the way we want them to be, but the beauty of life is opportunity. Take the advice we give to our clients every day and push through!
Supervision Support was a testimony for me. It was how I channeled my pain. It is how I will be unapologetic about how I show up in this field, and I want you all to continue to be a part of this journey.
So to that end, HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY Mommas, you’re doing just fine!
Des & MARLEY